Comments on: Giveaway #2: How to Win Friends and Influence People http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:44:48 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Joan Elder http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2549 Joan Elder Mon, 22 Mar 2010 00:32:39 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2549 Thomas Jefferson said "Let your friends be few and well chosen, and let them be tested by time". All children need friends and to learn the skills of socialization. With that said we have to then as parents decide who to socialize our children with. As Homeschooling parents we can decide who to allow to influence our children rather than it happen by random chance like in a school situation. We have a disabled daughter and finding friends is newer an easy task, but we do value those who appreciate the value of a friend who is loyal and kind more so than those who have an easy time aquiring friends. Many so called socialization skills can be learned within the family or church situation with much better outcomes. I am reminded of Lord of the Flies sometimes when I hear about how many children have to survive in a public school situation. That is not desirable for anyone. So,we choose to allow the influence into our children lives that will reinforce what we are teaching and know that in time they will have to deal with other influences after they are well grounded. Joan Thomas Jefferson said “Let your friends be few and well chosen, and let them be tested by time”. All children need friends and to learn the skills of socialization. With that said we have to then as parents decide who to socialize our children with. As Homeschooling parents we can decide who to allow to influence our children rather than it happen by random chance like in a school situation. We have a disabled daughter and finding friends is newer an easy task, but we do value those who appreciate the value of a friend who is loyal and kind more so than those who have an easy time aquiring friends.
Many so called socialization skills can be learned within the family or church situation with much better outcomes. I am reminded of Lord of the Flies sometimes when I hear about how many children have to survive in a public school situation. That is not desirable for anyone.
So,we choose to allow the influence into our children lives that will reinforce what we are teaching and know that in time they will have to deal with other influences after they are well grounded.
Joan

]]> By: Loralee http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2516 Loralee Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:03:40 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2516 Homeschooling has been a wonderful source of excellent socialization for my 2 boys. As many others commented, they routinely get complimented for their manners and good behavior. As a result of their good behavior and social skills, they are eagerly invited to join our adult friends in fellowship and conversation... Homeschooling has been a wonderful source of excellent socialization for my 2 boys. As many others commented, they routinely get complimented for their manners and good behavior. As a result of their good behavior and social skills, they are eagerly invited to join our adult friends in fellowship and conversation…

]]> By: Angie Pfleiderer http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2503 Angie Pfleiderer Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:32:57 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2503 When I'm asked the famous question, "Well, what about socialization?" I say, "Yeah, I know that used to be a problem for us. We had so many opportunities for homeschool co-op classes, art classes, music lessons, etc. Then with all the ministries opportunities like nursing home visits, shut-in visits, making and delivering meals and mission projects combined with all the library clubs, 4-H clubs, Bible Studies, etc. Why we just felt like we were socializing all the time! We have learned to turn down most of things good things and only allow the best into our schedules ~ but, I'll admit that you do have a point there ~ socialization can really be a problem for homeschoolers if they're not careful!" When I’m asked the famous question, “Well, what about socialization?” I say, “Yeah, I know that used to be a problem for us. We had so many opportunities for homeschool co-op classes, art classes, music lessons, etc. Then with all the ministries opportunities like nursing home visits, shut-in visits, making and delivering meals and mission projects combined with all the library clubs, 4-H clubs, Bible Studies, etc. Why we just felt like we were socializing all the time! We have learned to turn down most of things good things and only allow the best into our schedules ~ but, I’ll admit that you do have a point there ~ socialization can really be a problem for homeschoolers if they’re not careful!”

]]> By: cindy ulmer http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2502 cindy ulmer Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:18:40 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2502 With all the texting going on in my teens' lives, this book sounds like a must have for my teens. Communication is so vital that I think even my husband and I would benefit from this book. Thanks for the drawing! cindy With all the texting going on in my teens’ lives, this book sounds like a must have for my teens. Communication is so vital that I think even my husband and I would benefit from this book. Thanks for the drawing! cindy

]]> By: Michele http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2498 Michele Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:44:08 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2498 I think homeschool children actually learn more about socialization because they aren't limited to just their peers. They are learning to interact with all ages! I think homeschool children actually learn more about socialization because they aren’t limited to just their peers.
They are learning to interact with all ages!

]]> By: Purva Brown http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2497 Purva Brown Fri, 19 Mar 2010 02:56:59 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2497 Oh, you're going to love this one! I read a shirt on someone at church that said, "Unsocialized homeschooler! Beware!!!" I loved it! I'm going to get a couple for my kids. :D Oh, you’re going to love this one! I read a shirt on someone at church that said, “Unsocialized homeschooler! Beware!!!” I loved it! I’m going to get a couple for my kids. :D

]]> By: Gina Jolley http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2495 Gina Jolley Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:28:07 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2495 Sorry about last sentence I meant to put .... confident in my decision to homeschool my boys-- 4,12 and 17. Sorry about last sentence I meant to put …. confident in my decision to homeschool my boys– 4,12 and 17.

]]> By: Gina Jolley http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2494 Gina Jolley Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:22:45 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2494 This is only our second year of homeschooling but I have noticed a big difference between the attitudes and abilities to communicate in a n effective manner. I think it is great that homeschooled kids are "required" to socialize with multiple aged peers and many other adults. They seem to have more of an ability to communicate their ideas, desires and frustrations in an appropriate manner. We are asked that question all the time. I just repeat the same things I always do and remind people that my children participate on many different groups and organizations. I would really enjoy reading this book. I think it would help me be even more confident in my decision to homeschool boys- 4,12 and 17. This is only our second year of homeschooling but I have noticed a big difference between the attitudes and abilities to communicate in a n effective manner. I think it is great that homeschooled kids are “required” to socialize with multiple aged peers and many other adults. They seem to have more of an ability to communicate their ideas, desires and frustrations in an appropriate manner.

We are asked that question all the time. I just repeat the same things I always do and remind people that my children participate on many different groups and organizations. I would really enjoy reading this book. I think it would help me be even more confident in my decision to homeschool boys- 4,12 and 17.

]]> By: Frances http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2492 Frances Fri, 19 Mar 2010 00:13:32 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2492 I have 2 teenagers. I know they enjoy homeschooling but as they have grown they miss the ease that their schooled friends get to meet up with peers, or work together on projects and activities. Casual meet ups are more difficult - between school work, part time work, sports, other activities and Mum can be a drag - then it is for schooled friends who see friends each day. They are more reserved (polite?)and quiet. They are also more individual in their style, manner and ideas than most of their peers. They just have to work at keeping contact with their friends more so than if they were at school. I have 2 teenagers.
I know they enjoy homeschooling but as they have grown they miss the ease that their schooled friends get to meet up with peers, or work together on projects and activities. Casual meet ups are more difficult – between school work, part time work, sports, other activities and Mum can be a drag – then it is for schooled friends who see friends each day.
They are more reserved (polite?)and quiet. They are also more individual in their style, manner and ideas than most of their peers. They just have to work at keeping contact with their friends more so than if they were at school.

]]> By: christa http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/2010/03/12/giveaway-2-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2451 christa Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:39:38 +0000 http://barbarafrankonline.com/blog.php/?p=973#comment-2451 I LOVE vintage books, sounds great. It is ironic that no one ever worried about socialization when I was in school- and even though I and my peers were heavily "socialized" we were so much more self absorbed and grouped by age that encouraged us to be even more segregated. I love that my kids can be around people of all ages I LOVE vintage books, sounds great. It is ironic that no one ever worried about socialization when I was in school- and even though I and my peers were heavily “socialized” we were so much more self absorbed and grouped by age that encouraged us to be even more segregated. I love that my kids can be around people of all ages

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