Divorce Often Threatens Homeschooling Freedoms

A recent case decided in the New Hampshire Supreme Court has forced an 11-year-old girl into public school against her will and her mother’s. The case resulted from the parents’ 1999 divorce and the father’s belief that homeschooling does not allow “adequate socialization” for his daughter, despite the fact that in addition to a home-taught Bible class, the mother:

…also taught her daughter math, reading, English, social studies, science, handwriting and spelling using curriculum “comparable to the public school curriculum at the same age.” She also allowed her daughter to take private music lessons and attend a monthly theater class and weekly classes in art, Spanish and physical education at a public school.

Without getting into my perception of the father’s real motivation here, I’m just saddened and frustrated to see yet another divorce cause trouble for homeschoolers in general. Having known of several divorces in the homeschool community, I think it’s a shame that these divorces not only cause misery for the children involved, but that it seems like there’s always one parent who has to punish the former spouse by taking them to court over homeschooling, vaccinations, lack of vaccinations, etc., often creating legal precedents that then affect other homeschooling families.

Seriously, divorcing parents, must you involve the courts in these things? The rest of us are getting a little irritated at being affected by your poor decisions.

Destruction of a Homeschooling Family

A homeschooling couple I know just broke up. It’s certainly not the first time I’ve heard of this happening, but this particular couple is a special one and I feel really bad about it.

Surely Christian families are under attack. What else possesses a man to leave his wife and several beautiful children whom he supposedly loves to “do his own thing” except sin?

He knows his decision will force his wife back to work and his kids back to school (where they originally struggled before being homeschooled) and little ones to daycare. But sin convinces him to put himself and his desires first.

The mom in this family is a strong person, with a loving, loyal family who will have her back. But that won’t erase her pain, nor the lifelong damage done to trusting young children who are about to learn firsthand about betrayal.

Did you ever want to go up to someone and smack them upside the head and knock some sense into them? I do, right now, but that’s not what Jesus would do, so I’m just going to pray for this family instead. I hope you will, too.