How to Get Barb’s Book for Half Price

Guest post from a homeschool dad:

Has your Homeschool year started and things aren’t quite going smooth yet? Are you Moms finding it a little difficult to get yourself back on a good schedule? Are you having doubts about your curriculum or does it seem that everyone is asking if “you’re doing that homeschool thing again this year?” Is everything getting done? Is anything getting done?

Maybe you need to read what my wife learned (and how she survived) homeschooling for 25 years…and do we have a special deal for you Homeschool Groups!

 

 

 

Her book is called The Imperfect Homeschooler’s Guide to Homeschooling. I’m sure you’ve heard other moms mention it. Here’s how to get it for half price:  order 10 books at a time and get them for $5.95 each (reg. $11.95 each) plus you’ll get free shipping. Got a big group?  Order 20 books and get free shipping. Or order 30 books and get free shipping. So the deal is 10-book increments, ½ price for the books and free shipping.

The Imperfect Homeschooler's Guide to Homeschooling

 

She put a lot of information in her book too – no fluff – homeschool moms don’t have time for fluff – they “just need the facts.”

 

You can read more about the book here:

 

 

But to get the book at the homeschool group discount (½ price for increments of 10 books plus free shipping) you need to order from this page.

Her book really is packed full of information and advice.

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P.S. My wife is Barbara Frank

Please note: free shipping to continental U.S. only.

A Homeschool Tempest in a Teapot

So the press has found some dissatisfied homeschooled adults. This must make them so happy. Nothing like a little controversy to boost your website traffic.

It makes sense that there will be some homeschooled adults who are dissatisfied with how they were raised. Just looking at the populace at large, what percentage are unhappy with the way they were raised? Probably a good portion, judging from the number of self-help titles published over the years for readers trying to get past their problematic childhoods. Why should homeschoolers be any different?

In this particular case the focus is on a certain type of homeschooling family, known collectively as Quiverfull, according to the article. (That name stems from a book very popular among Christian homeschoolers in the 1990s.) This has been a trainwreck in the making for some time. I knew several families like those described in the article; given their strict beliefs, particularly as they applied them to their daughters, rebellion was inevitable. After all, once your girls get out into the world and discover that there are options in addition to marriage and motherhood, some of them are going to want more choices.

When my first book (Life Prep for Homeschooled Teenagers) was published, I had trouble getting a booth at a certain homeschool conference to sell it. I couldn’t even get a response from those running the conference. I was later told by someone in the know that the problem with my book is that it encourages girls as well as boys to become independent adults. The families running the conference didn’t want their girls to get any ideas, I guess.

Now, I don’t agree with their mindset and my husband doesn’t either. We homeschooled all our children, daughters and sons, with the intent of helping them be all that they could be. Personally I think we can trust God to lead each child to the right career; those that think all girls should be trained only to be wives and mothers ought to give some thought to how God used Corrie ten Boom and Amy Carmichael.

But just because I disagree with families who raise their daughters to be only wives and mothers doesn’t mean I think they shouldn’t be able to do what they’re doing. There is no agenda-free schooling anywhere. There’s an agenda in public school and private school just as there is in any homeschool. Parents are free to choose how to educate their children, and children are free to embrace or reject their upbringing when they become adults. The article I cited at the start of this post is merely an attempt to foment controversy, so don’t let it bother you too much.

The irony in all this is that many of the young women quoted in the article will someday change their minds. They’ll end up being stricter than their folks. I’ve seen it happen before. Some of the biggest rebels eventually turn into the strictest parents. People are funny, aren’t they?

Faith in Institutions vs. Self-Reliance

One of the best predictors of homeschool success is whether or not you have faith in institutions*.

Most people do. They figure schools know what’s best for kids, medical personnel know what’s best for people, and government knows what’s best for everyone.

It’s easy to say that “I don’t feel that way!” But think about it. Do you figure if homeschooling doesn’t work out, you can always send your kids back to school? When the doctor’s prescription not only doesn’t help your child but makes him worse, do you immediately go back for a different prescription instead of educating yourself on the problem first? And when your government tells you it will handle its enormous debt, do you figure it knows what it’s doing and go back to your day? Because these are all signs of reliance on institutions.

Most of the homeschoolers I’ve known over the years have shared a distrust of institutions. Their school experience was not the highlight of their childhood and may have even been a catalyst for homeschooling their children. They take what their doctors say with a grain of salt and start doing their own research on their (and their loved ones’) health situations, which is why many of them are into homeopathy, follow certain ways of eating ranging from paleo to vegan, and often don’t want their children to be vaccinated. And they respond to their government’s casual reassurances about its financial future by stocking up on food, weapons and, if they have the money, gold.

I see this conflict between those who believe in institutions and those who don’t a lot lately, especially among homeschoolers. I hear from moms who are frustrated because those who run the homeschool co-op their kids attend aren’t being fair, or aren’t offering convenient-enough times or places for co-op classes. Sometimes there’s panic in their tone, and I don’t understand it. I went into homeschooling figuring I was going to have to do it myself, and proceeded accordingly. But these parents don’t see it that way. That tells me that they have too much faith in institutions, and I have to wonder about their commitment to homeschooling their children. I hope they won’t do like some and put their kids back in school, until something happens there that they don’t like and they pull them back out again to homeschool them. That’s not really fair to the child. Kids need consistency, and they’ll find that in the home if their parents are able to provide it.

From what I’ve seen, parents who instinctively distrust institutions are better suited to long-term homeschooling. There’s a self-reliance there that’s lacking in those who trust so-called experts more than their own God-given common sense.

*I’m using the term “institutions” as a catch-all that includes organizations, bureaucracies, teams and organized groups.

Mom-Led Learning is Fun!

Our family’s homeschooling experience turned out to be a hybrid; a mix of academics and child-led pursuits. At first it was all academics, of course, until I realized that my kids learned even better when they were interested in what they were learning. Regular discussions with the kids (we called it brainstorming) led us to unit studies about pioneers, ancient Roman cultures, and a lot more that I can hardly remember after all these years.

As our kids got older, they began pursuing their own interests (we tried to finish academics by lunch so they’d have their afternoons free), and it was fun to see how each one went from one subject to another. Seems like a child is barely sated in one interest before he goes after another.

I guess I should amend that: change “child” to “person.” Because now that I’m retired from homeschooling, I find that I’m just like my kids were, going from subject to subject.

Earlier this winter, I was voraciously reading anything I could get my hands on regarding giving. Then I got distracted by Joe Williams, having discovered him on one of my Pandora channels. So my family has been subjected to his music for months, and I’m not tired of him yet (he even has his own “Top Tracks” page on YouTube!). But a few weeks ago the Ruth Stout books I ordered from the library came in; since then, I’ve also been inhaling everything she ever wrote about gardening.

The key to all this is time: having spent most of my life in public education, then college, and then many years of raising children, I never had the time until now to freely pursue my interests.

My kids had that time when they were growing up, thanks to homeschooling. 🙂

Unfortunately, newer homeschooling parents tend to book their children’s days full of activities and experiences. I hope they quickly learn, as I did, that one of the best things about homeschooling is that it can give kids time to follow their interests, if their parents allow it.


Post Election Depression Lifting, Finally!

I can feel my post-election depression finally lifting. This is a good thing. For a while I was having some pretty dark thoughts, things like “Why bother to homeschool our kids if they’re just going to become sheeple anyways? Why not send them to public school so the indoctrination can begin, making them more psychologically comfortable in the socialist society that lies ahead?” See what I mean about dark thoughts?

Not that I’ve changed my mind. I do think the results of November’s election showed that there are enough people looking for government to take care of them that we’re headed toward socialism. The numbers made it clear that we’re crossing the line from a majority of makers to a majority of takers.

One of my kids saw this mindset clearly exhibited during a recent stint at tech college (AKA in other states as community college or junior college.) Many fellow students shared stories of frustration at not finding enough sugared cereals at the local food bank, thus making government-issued EBT cards (formerly known as food stamps) a necessity. Then there were those who complained that their free government-sponsored daycare didn’t offer care on weekends so they could party without having to be home in time for the kids. But some still make it work: one student, in her 20s with three children by different fathers, bragged about a weekend in Las Vegas with her boyfriend….when the government pays for your food, housing, tuition and books, you can apparently afford such niceties.

So I pictured a country more than half-filled with people such as these, and I realized we were toast. All the things we’d taught our children (to be responsible for themselves, stay out of debt, put away money for a rainy day, make wise financial decisions) flew in the face of what’s been going on in our country.

Why be so conscientious when sloth is rewarded? Why raise kids to be financially independent and entrepreneurially minded if that will make them pariahs? After all, since our culture defines success as becoming wealthy, doing so will make you one of the hated 1% (unless you’re a rapper like Jay-Z, because wealthy rappers apparently get a pass). Who wants to insure that their kids become hated, even while they support the rest of their fellow citizens through taxation?

Speaking of wealth, many of those who actually are very wealthy have been sitting on the sidelines, waiting to see how the election would go before investing their money. And now, post-election, they’re investing their money overseas. That doesn’t bode well for our struggling economy, does it?

Other wealthy people are “shrugging,” to use a term from Ayn Rand’s more-popular-than-ever novel Atlas Shrugged. Entertainer and radio personality Dennis Miller said long before the election that if the current regime won re-election, he would shrug, meaning he would stop purposely earning money. He said he would keep the contractual commitments he’d already made, but would not take on anything new, and would travel instead. He can afford to do that, of course, because as a highly paid successful entertainer, he surely has plenty of cash to fall back on. But that’s all cash that won’t be invested in our economy. I’m sure there will be many more like him.

It makes for a depressing contemplation of the future, doesn’t it? For a while I was thinking that homeschooling had just become a waste of time. If our children were going to live in a society that punishes innovation and achievement by taxing the money it creates at very high rates (some are saying the 90% rate is going to make a comeback), why bother? Maybe they’ll be more comfortable being sheep and just going with the flow.

But I came out of that after I got to thinking about the famous 47%, the group Mitt Romney mentioned that he wouldn’t need to market to because they only wanted government handouts. Yes, I know many of them are like those students at the tech college: gimme, gimme, gimme. But many of them are not. I know some of them. They’ve been forced to take government handouts thanks to the bad economy. They ran out of unemployment. They can’t afford health insurance for their family anymore so they’re taking what they can get.

Not everyone who’s on government aid is demanding their Obamaphones. Many are just trying to survive, and government aid is the only option they have left. They’ve never been on it before and wish they didn’t have to be on it now, but they don’t see any other options.

Over the past five years, people I care about have lost their businesses or jobs and their homes. We lost our home, too; not through foreclosure, because we had paid off our house. But after my husband’s business went under, we could no longer afford our $6000+ property tax bill, and had to sell the house so we wouldn’t lose it in a tax sale. That was painful enough, but to go through a foreclosure would have been even worse. And many people are going through that right now. Not all of them were stupid people who bought “too much house” after spending too much time watching HGTV. Some lost their jobs and suffered long-term unemployment, thanks to this lousy economy, and then couldn’t make their payments.

This realization helped me see that all is not lost. I don’t think the majority of people want to be taken care of by the government. But the fact is, by hook or by crook, the election was won by those who want bigger government, at a time when we can least afford it. This means that we’re soon going to find ourselves falling over that fiscal cliff (you know, the one the media started talking about the day AFTER the election), and times are likely to get very hard indeed.

So in a situation like this, how do we educate our children? Sending them to public school will help them become more comfortable in a socialist society, but I have to wonder how long that society can last given our precarious financial situation. No, after I got done being depressed about the meaning of the election of 2012, I gave a lot of thought to what kind of future today’s kids face, and I realized that it’s more important than ever to make sure our kids know how limited government once made America great so they can develop a vision for getting back to that point, because things are going to fall apart and it will take people of vision to put it back together again.

It’s also vital that we help our kids become resourceful individuals who know how to take care of themselves and those around them in times of trial. Children who are accustomed to being waited on and getting what they want will suffer the most in hard times; those who can take care of themselves and others and don’t object to doing so will be much better off down the road.

I fear our kids are going to see a lot of hardship in their lives, especially if we don’t send them to the indoctrination centers currently known as public school, where they would be taught to go along to get along. It’s hard to be the dissenter, the one who won’t follow the official program. But I think that’s what it’s going to take to have even a modicum of freedom; people who love freedom will be our best hope of taking back our country in the future.

So yes, now that the election is over and I’ve come through the resulting depression to the other side, I can see that homeschooling is more important than ever. I don’t think it’s going to be easy; in fact, homeschooling parents may become the 21st century face of civil disobedience by not sending their kids to public school. But if enough people do so, and teach their kids about liberty and independence, we will have a generation of people ready to pick up the pieces when the inevitable collapse of socialism occurs. Homeschooling has become one of the most patriotic things you can do.